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“We have a relationship that is completely odd and fabricated. We’ve been thrown together, two people who don’t know each other, and we’ve been forced to spend more time together than married people do. So you can’t describe our relationship as ‘like’ or ‘dislike.’”

DD, LA Times, 1997.

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“We have our moments. Sometimes we all just show up and go, ‘I’d rather be anywhere else but here, and I’m going to make you suffer for it.’ But then at other times I’ll look at Gillian and think, ‘She’s the only one that really knows what I am going through, and I’m the only one that knows what she’s going through.’

“So there’s a real bond there at this point, four years into the show. We’re all just trying to make it the best show we can make it. If we keep that common goal in mind, we can forgive a lot.”

David Duchovny, August 1997

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“There is no such thing as anybody doing anything on the show alone. I don’t do anything without Gillian and she doesn’t do anything without me. So it’s really dealing with other people’s perceptions and [their] trying to stoke rivalries between us that really have no place in the relationship that we have.”

David Duchovny, “X-Pose,” 1998.

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They are not similar people, Anderson and Duchovny, but they are forced together in a coupling that the public views as idyllic, and because of this there is an oddly conspiratorial feel to their interaction. “It’s a difficult relationship because it’s like an arranged marriage,” Duchovny says. “We didn’t choose to be together.”

US Magazine, 1997

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For almost a decade, she and her co-star David Duchovny, with whom she was reported to have a testy relationship, worked 16-hour days, five and a half days a week, nine months a year. Only after the series ended did she realise how unhappy this had made her. “Not at the time. I had no frame of reference.” She does remember feeling very low during her pregnancy (she started having panic attacks at this time), and after her daughter’s birth, and when Piper started reaching first for the nanny.

“You know, early twenties, all the emotions, and I had a baby, and then a divorce, and I was on a brand-new series that was doing well, and all the publicity surrounding that, all the nonsense about David and I, and there were times when it was unbearable.” Hastily, humbly, she adds, “And yet, I was so fortunate to be a part of something that was so exceptional. We did have fun.”

The Observer, May 2006
http://www.guardian.co.uk/film/2006/may/07/tvbaftas2006.television

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“I found it easy to treat McKean like Mulder— after all, I’ve been dealing with Mulder for five and a half seasons. But the other way around? Treating David like McKean’s character? That was a challenge. I have this intense history with David. There’s a lot of energy and chemistry between us. And I had to work hard not fall into those patterns while I was dealing with him as if I don’t know him. In the end I think we pulled it off. But it was very tricky, very interesting.”

GA on “Dreamland I & II,” 1998/99?

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“I think [our relationship] is one of those ones that’s so kind of longstanding and so many things are unspoken. It’s almost familial in that way. I’m a firm believer that you recreate your family situations at work. She’s a combination of a few people. I won’t say who. But it’s complicated.”

DD, USA Today, March 2000

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“It is not like we do not get on,” he insists. “We are somehow joined, at some significant level, for ever, for as long as we are alive, not just in the public’s mind but our own.

“To have worked so long together at that intensity, to have gone through so many huge changes in our personal, professional and public lives, means that we have a very deep bond. We have never had a friendship of like minds, but we are soulmates in some senses.

“I love her and I think she loves me, but we do not have a huge interest in each other as people outside of this work connection.”

David Duchovny, UK Times, 2003

Don’t even know where to start with this one.

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“It’s a very complicated relationship. We just get enough of each other right now.

“But the bottom line is she’s the only one who knows what it’s been like for me, and I’m the only one who knows what it’s been like for her. I imagine we’ll be friends when the show’s over.”

DD, TV Guide, 1996

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“It’s a long time, it’s a long of work, you’re in this crucible, it becomes this juggernaut… and we become like, hugely famous people, and we all change a little bit, go a little crazy, think that we’re special, and then we come back down to earth and we know that we’re not…

“And it’s just all these things that happen. We see the worst of each other. Fame brings out the worst in people, as does success, in a weird way. Until it doesn’t, until you learn how to deal with it, until you learn what it’s all about. And I think now we do. And now that we all do, we just really appreciate one another for having gone through that experience. And not only that, but I appreciate her talent much more than I ever did.”

- DD, Popcorn with Peter Travers, 2008

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“I don’t know why. Maybe just luck in the beginning. But after this long we actually do have a history…

“And so when I look over at Gillian, or I’m Mulder looking over at Scully, there’s a lot of shit that I can call on. We have a lot between us, and so you don’t really have to make it up.

“I think that just as people, now fifteen years later, we have just shared so much — regardless of how much we speak to one another. I expect to see Gillian, even if I haven’t seen her for a year.”

DD, July 2008.

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mushfromnewsies:

Rosalind Russell and Cary Grant on the set of His Girl Friday

David and Gillian need to remake this movie. It would work… on so many levels.

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When David Duchovny and Gillian Anderson finally sit down together for an interview, it is politely, like family members who come together a few times a year purely out of obligation but who nonetheless recognize each other’s importance in their lives.

They are not similar people, Anderson and Duchovny, but they are forced together in a coupling that the public views as idyllic, and because of this there is an oddly conspiratorial feel to their interaction.

“It’s a difficult relationship because it’s like an arranged marriage,” Duchovny says. “We didn’t choose to be together.” When the first question is asked— “How has your personal dynamic changed over the course of four seasons?” — they look at each other as if to make sure they’re on the same page, and Duchovny begins speaking. “It changes all the time, right?” Anderson nods in agreement.

DUCHOVNY: It’s not that it used to be one thing and it’s another thing now. It’s cyclic.
Are you in an up cycle at the moment?
ANDERSON: Today, yes.
DUCHOVNY: Or else we wouldn’t be here.

US Magazine, 1997

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In fact, Anderson missed only one episode and was back to work - after an emergency C-section - in just 10 days. “I was getting restless,” says Anderson. “I wanted to get back to work because it was really hard on David, and it’s the two of us up there, you know?”

A knock on the door and it’s time for another take. Anderson hurries back to the dank basement of a high-rise, where Duchovny is waiting. “You OK?” he asks her. “Fine,” she smiles.

TV Guide, March 1995

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