fuck yeah david and gillian : documenting the awkward since 2010
How did you react when your parents divorced?
I don’t think I understood what divorce was or what it all meant. If you tell a child that his father is going to live somewhere else, it’s like hearing the sun is so many miles from the earth. You understand what it means but you don’t know what it is until it actually happens. It goes on for a month, then six months, then a year— and then it’s, Oh, now I understand what that meant. … It hurt, but I wasn’t aware of that. I probably felt rejected. It involved things I wouldn’t have had the vocabulary or the mentality to deal with.
DD, Playboy, 1998
“My parents’ divorce was the most important emotional stage in my growing up. That sense of being forced into an adult world of emotions I wasn’t equipped to handle is something that I’ll never really recover from. Your parents are trying to explain to you how their love died and your worst fear is that their feelings for you might also die.
“Their divorce has defined the way I have dealt with love throughout my life. It’s another cliché but that’s probably why I’ve not been able to commit myself to one relationship in the past, through some sort of inner fear that it might crumble and die.”
DD, UK Daily Express, June 2001
In acting, I felt like I was playing ball again. I felt the education I had was cerebral and academic and that I hadn’t educated a part of me that gets angry or that cries or that plays a lot. I hadn’t really educated my heart. I had a brain the size of a house and a heart the size of a pea so I had to even that out a little.
David Duchovny, September 1992